#MentalBreakMonday | The harsh reality of failed relationships​, Divorce

The twist and turns of relationships will have you on cloud nine one day and in hell the next. Continuously on an impending emotional roller coaster that never comes to a complete stop. Feelings of super highs with a mixture of lows always seem impossible to avoid.

I never thought tragedy would strike in this manner, and this is how I spent the last year of my life. I separated from my husband physically and now emotionally. Hearing the words Divorce sent me into desperation to figure out the problems to fix them. Finding out there is no solution to solve the issues we both struggled to correct was disheartening.

The term Divorce is specific to my situation. The emotions of a profound loss can apply to any long-term relationship. I had to say goodbye to a decade of promised forevers, but ultimately we could not make good on them. We were walking away from visions of plans. Hopes and dreams are snatched away in the blink of an eye.

During this time, you can expect to feel an unimaginable pain. Many days, months, and for some years of feeling lost, hopeless, and, dare I say it, worthless. Days when you want it all to go away, moments that will seem like an eternity. Falling victim to insecurities, stress, and constant nightmares.

All emotions are healthy but will appear as never-ending torture in those moments. There will be days when getting out of bed seems impossible. Sleep or locking yourself away will be your only escape from the harsh reality. I tried to dance it away, laugh it away, run it away; you girl was living a real-life Cranes in the Sky.

No matter what, there is no way to prepare for a day like this. You will make it through with prayer, time, patience, hard work, and an excellent support system. Because this is a private matter, I will not disclose the details of my Divorce. However, the pain was not always manageable in the beginning.

I wanted to take the time to share with you all how I overcame this obstacle. In my next few blog post, I will share the things that helped me recover, and how to support them—hoping to shed light on the hurdles you will face.

If you are going through a traumatic breakup, I sympathize with you, and here to say better days are coming. Your feelings are real; they are valid; remember to heal in your time frame.

Although I am still healing, I am wiser, stronger, and happier from this pain. I had to push myself to get to this point; now, I see more incredible things falling in place. Created amid tragedy is a blessing; learn to stand still and appreciate the silence.

Please comment below and share with me how you overcame a hard time in your life. Also, let me know what you hope to read from me in the future.